When my mother was first diagnosed with cancer and we learned that she was going to die, a friend suggested that we go to a professional photographer for family photos. Mom said no. She explained that she didn’t want us to look back at that photo and remember the reason why we took it. She was afraid that it would be a reminder of sadness and death. Instead, we went on taking photos the way we always had. We have wonderful photos from the year that mom was sick – photos from family outings, parties and silly moments – all candid shots.
My husband’s father was recently diagnosed with cancer and a family photo session has been scheduled for this coming weekend. Cancer is not a cookie cutter problem. Everybody needs and wants something different. My father-in-law wants to take a family photo before he starts chemo and so that is what we are going to do. As a family, we are going to pull together and meet his needs as much as we possibly can.
Cancer is a terrible thing, but it can’t take away love.
My life on Glee…
If a day in my life was an episode of Glee, the set list would be as follows:
1. “You Can’t Always Get What You Want” I went shopping with my son who just had to have this really cool fire engine toy. We didn’t leave the store with it. I said no because…..well……refer to the song title.
2. “Have You Ever Seen the Rain?” A grown woman peed her pants right in front of me while I was standing in line at the grocery store. Really.
3. “So Much Better” (Is that my name up on that list?) I got a job today that I have been wanting for a long time!
4. “Smile” (although your heart is breaking) My father-in-law was diagnosed with cancer today. My heart is breaking for my husband. This is a hard road. I do not want my husband to experience what I already experienced with the loss of my mother.